Here is a quote from a really lovely new book by Kate Brian, writer, journalist and mum to two IVF conceived children –
“One of the problems for parents who have longed for a family for many years is that you often have completely unrealistic expectations of the ideal sort of parent you will become, and you want to do everything perfectly, with no margin for error or learning. You may have imagined yourself drifting around with a well-fed baby gurgling happily in your arms, a row of gleaming white babygros flapping on the washing line, a tidy, polished house and a healthy supper cooking in the oven. Finding yourself in your dressing grown at lunchtime, hair awry, still not having managed to eat breakfast as you desperately rock a screaming baby, is not the way you have imagined your family life, and yet it is probably a far more realistic picture of life with a new born baby”
Oh yes, been there, got the (milk stained) tee-shirt!
The book is called Precious Babies: Pregnancy, Birth and Parenting after Infertility and it is published on 6th October. I’ll be writing more about it, but the above passage struck such a chord I thought I’d give you a preview.
Going away tomorrow for four days so no more posts till Tuesday! Sorry folks.