Well, Elizabeth Marquardt responded to part of my request for clear statements about her assumptions, or biases as she probably more accurately calls them. http://familyscholars.org/2011/11/16/live-debate-marquardt-responds-to-montuschi/#more-7801
Her religious affiliation is interesting. I knew nothing about the Bahi’i Faith, but a quick Google this morning reveals the following from Wickipedia.
The Bahá’í Faith teaches that the only acceptable form of sexual expression is within marriage, and Bahá’í marriage is defined in the religion’s texts as exclusively between one man and one woman. Bahá’ís stress the importance of absolute chastity for any unmarried person, and focus on personal restraint.
Not that her faith or any of her views are reasons to rubbish what she has to say. I just think it important – although EM seems to have doubts about this in her response to me – that we are all clear where commentators are coming from. To engage, or not to engage, that is the question.
I’m leaving all this behind today and going to see my gorgeous three month old grand-daughter…beloved not because she is genetically related to me but because, like any new baby, she represents hope and the future. She has also given Walter and me a wonderful new role in life. On the train I will be reading A Little Stranger by Sarah Waters. I went to hear her speak the other night. Nice woman. Also reading Infertile Marriage by Robert Newill, published in 1974 and responsible certainly for at least one family – and almost certainly many more- not telling their now thirty-something son about his conception by donor. Tell you more about that another time.